My View | confessions from a new mom

Aug 10, 2016
4 min read

Hey friends!

Happy hump day! Hands to Jesus the week is almost over.

Today on the blog I want to share with you "My View." Both my physical views, things I see daily and my mental view (because all moms are crazy). I spend a lot of time with my little babe right now and I wanted to share some things a new mom might be thinking about!

So first; I just want to give a shout out to all the new dads out there. They work just as hard as the mama's and get none of the credit. It wasn't until 3 months when Liana started smiling at my husband. Seeing her face light up whenever she would look at him literally made me melt. I just couldn't take it. It's like she knows how hard he works to provide for her and protect her. It just blesses me to see him being a daddy. So way to go first time dads! I'm giving you a virtual high five right now!

Now all the new mama's tune in...lets have a chat.

On Instagram or Facebook you see our well put together faces, groomed hair and perfectly lit pictures..well if we're lucky and it's nap time then you do. To all you veteran mama's who carry diapers in their back pocket and lick the binky when it falls on the ground so you can give it back to the screaming baby, I salute you. Your confidence and time management just put me in shock. Even my own mother, who retired from the military but was still just as busy with her hood rat children ( yeah I'm one of them) and all their sports and clubs. She STILL managed to make dinner every night. Like how?

Here's my view on motherhood so far, four months in.

It's hard.

I'll elaborate; motherhood is incredibly challenging, hence why you barely see those well polished pictures on social media after the little treasure is born. At first, I could barely find time to take a shower ( sorry if that grosses you out). I had a fort of dishes in my sink and I think a creature was living under my couch. But yet I never called in reinforcements. Why is that you ask? Because I'm a mom, and us moms have this strange inner feeling of failure when you have to ask for help. Or atleast I did. Then something changed, a help didn't seem so discouraging but rather encouraging. Especially since the help came from my husband.

I remember the first morning I woke up to an empty sink. I saw the Glory of God shining down on my sink. The counters were clean. The fridge was organized and whatever creature was living under my couch was evicted. Except I didn't ask for this help. It was just done. It was almost as if my husband knew how challenging it was for me as a mother and a wife to ask for help, so he saw an opportunity and took it! I'm not afraid of help anymore! I ask frequently now haha! Sometimes the floors are dirty, sometimes the sink is full. But all the time I'm happy. I would rather share valuable time with my family then wash the dishes or clean the floors any day. Moms, my view, take a break from your "chores." Soak in all the minutes because they grow too fast.

Another thing I have learned thus far in motherhood is to connect with other mamas! I met up with a work friend who also had a baby recently and it was so refreshing to be out of the house and talk to someone who is in the same stages of motherhood as me.

I used to think it was silly hearing mothers say they needed "me" time. I had no idea why that was so important because I didn't NEED it then. Now I do and man do i cherish it.

My me time typically takes place at the gym with a friend and I would change a thing about that! That hour and a half is like gold to me. I'm thankful for a husband who respects my "me" time and lets me have it as often as I want! He's also a personal trainer so if I'm working out he's going to be all for it. haha

Those are the 3 things that have changed my "view" drastically since becoming a mother.

This is what my physical view looks like currently and I wouldn't change it for anything!

This post might seem like it's all over the place and that's probably because it is all over the place haha. But I just think it's important to inform everyone out there who think motherhood is a breeze just want being a mom entails. It's sacrificial, it's challenging and above it's rewarding.

So when you see a new mom in the store with a screaming baby, give her a high five. Because you don't know what happened five minutes ago or an hour ago. Tell them to keep up the good work because every mother needs encouragement. Pray for them, because being a new mom is spiritually draining.

Motherhood has been one of my most favorite transitions. I'll admit, there for a little while I thought I was going to rip my hair out and every now and then I miss my six pack (I'm down past pre-baby weight but no where near pre-baby muscles haha). I miss quiet sometimes and it bothers me that one to do list is spread out through out the whole month BUT I would sacrifice this view right here, on the floor with my sweet baby girl, for a million finished to do lists...ever.

Thank you Jesus for making me a mommy.